The holidays are often portrayed as the most wonderful time of the year, filled with joy, celebration, and togetherness. But for many people, this season can feel heavy—marked by stress, grief, loneliness, or even exhaustion. If someone you care about is struggling during the holidays, you might wonder what to say or how to help.
The truth is, small gestures of kindness and thoughtful conversations can make a big difference. Here are 5 meaningful ways to offer support and comfort to those who might find the holidays difficult.
1. Listen Without Judgment
One of the most impactful ways to support someone is to offer them your presence and a safe space to share their feelings. Let them know it’s okay to not feel festive, and avoid giving unsolicited advice. Instead, practice active listening: acknowledge their emotions, ask thoughtful questions, and simply be present. Sometimes, people don’t need solutions or answers—they just need someone to be there and listen. Your willingness to hold space for them can be incredibly comforting. (we just love this quote from our Advisory Board Member, Dr. Marc Brackett)
2. Check In Regularly
A quick call, text, or visit can make a world of difference. Holidays can amplify feelings of isolation, so reaching out to someone struggling shows that they are not alone. Make your check-ins specific and heartfelt.
Here are our examples!
3. Offer Practical Support
Holidays often come with extra stressors, like financial pressures, social obligations, and/or a busy schedule. Offer to help with tasks that might feel overwhelming for your loved one, such as cooking a meal, running errands, or decorating their space. If they seem withdrawn or unmotivated, ask if you can join them in doing something together, like grocery shopping or wrapping gifts. These small but thoughtful gestures can not only ease some of their burden but also remind them they are not alone in facing life’s challenges.
4. Invite, But Don’t Pressure
Include your loved one in holiday plans to help them feel connected, but be understanding if they decline. Sometimes, the thought of attending a big gathering or participating in holiday traditions can feel daunting. Let them know they are welcome, but also offer alternatives that might feel less overwhelming, such as a quiet coffee date, a walk, or watching a favorite movie together. Emphasize that their presence is enough and that there’s no need to meet any expectations. Providing flexibility and understanding helps create an environment where they feel supported without added stress.
5. Encourage Professional Help if Needed
If your friend or loved one’s struggles seem persistent or severe, gently suggest seeking professional support. Normalize reaching out for help by framing it as an act of self-care rather than a sign of weakness – in fact, its important to remember that reaching out for help is a sign of strength and courage! Offer to help with finding a therapist, support group, and/or share resources that could be helpful. If they are open to it, you might even accompany them to their first appointment. Your encouragement might be the nudge they need to prioritize their mental health and begin to heal.
REMEMBER: If you or someone you know is struggling this holiday season, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. A simple act of kindness can make all the difference.💙
Final Thoughts
Supporting someone who’s struggling during the holidays doesn’t require grand gestures—it’s the simple, consistent acts of care that mean the most. By showing empathy, staying connected, and offering a helping hand, you can help make their holidays a little brighter. Remember, kindness and understanding go a long way, not just during the holidays, but every day.
Let’s make this season one of compassion and connection. Who in your life could use a little extra support right now? Reach out—it could mean more than you know.
